I’ve been trying to avoid the topic of dating, because I don’t want to be known as the person who just rattles off their bitter feelings of broken relationships and passive aggressive jabs. But the platform I’ve created is something in which I can express my thoughts in hopes of inspiring others to do the same. So today I express my thoughts on soulmates.
I may be a dreamer, but I believe in soulmates. Not necessarily one soulmate, but multiple soulmates in both romance and friendship. There are certain people that are meant to be with each of us. I somehow always know when someone isn’t supposed to be in my life. There’s this nagging little voice inside my head (…not crazy I swear) that says “get out” every time, and it’s right every time (annoying). I think we are all very much like this but we choose to ignore our gut feelings because it’s easier to lie in comfort than in loneliness.
So why do we waste our time on relationships that don’t benefit us or grow us? We continue to stay with the same person, going through the motions, sometimes fighting every day, sometimes being sad every day, sometimes not feeling anything at all.
Others ask me often if I’m seeing anyone. Sometimes I am, sometimes I’m not. My biggest pet peeve is when someone says “oh you’ll find someone” after I tell them I’m not seeing anyone. I’m sorry? In order to be a whole, happy person I’m required me to be in a relationship? Why is “oh you’ll find someone” the immediate response of not seeing anyone? Why not something like: “oh well that’s great” or ” oh well you’re happy the way you are so keep on keeping on.” <- the words I tell myself anyways
I feel like a leper when someone says that to me – like they’re silently judging me. Our world has brainwashed us with this motion that we need to be with someone else, whether we consciously think it or not. And our human tendency is to need someone else. Believe me though- thinking back at unfulfilling or bad relationships, I would much rather be “alone” for the rest of my life than be in a bad relationship.
Some days I have faith, some days I’m cynical. Either way I know I’m on the right track to finding a soulmate love because I’m happy with who I am. In order to love someone else, we need to love ourselves first. Love is often confused with attachment and comfort, but true love is knowing we will be okay on our own and knowing they can do the same.