I’m in the middle of reading “The Art of Happiness” (HIGHLY recommend) and there is one theme that has really stuck with me. One of the main reasons why it’s so hard for us to be truly happy is that we constantly compare ourselves to other people. There is always something more and something better out there. Whether it’s a better car, job, hair, body, house, or maybe more money, we are always searching for something more to make us happy. Why is it so hard to just be satisfied with what we have and where we are?
We are programmed to always want more, to always want something we don’t have. It’s our culture, it’s the world we grow up in. It is always about the destination, always about attaining something. We live for the future and look back craving the past as though they will make us happy in present moments. The only way we can be happy in the present moment is being truly in the present moment.
When I look around, I am so incredibly grateful for this life that I have. It is nowhere near perfect and it’s messy and not necessarily to the highest level standard of “adulting,” but I’m getting there. When I begin to count my blessings, I have to stop before I start crying. I may not be a hundred percent happy with who I am, but I am hundred percent happy with what I’ve accomplished and how I’ve grown so much even in just the past six months (I’m basically a giant now). There’s a huge difference between working towards a goal and living and being content in a moment. Both are crucial to well-being.
Life is grand, not perfect. I like it in all its imperfections. I don’t want more. I want me, I want this, I want this moment. I want to be free. I want to be at peace. I want to be happy.
This is a mantra I have to repeat to myself every day. Being happy is training the mind to think a certain way – and like training for a race, we can’t just run once and be in shape. Train the mind…change your world….change the world.
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